When you look back on your life, there will always be those moments that stand out as life changing events. It’s both exciting and equally terrifying to think that these events could happen in a heartbeat and completely alter the shape of your life forever.
Some moments will change our lives for the better, others might be tinged with sadness and regret. All of them weave together to make us the person we are.
I’ve been feeling a bit down in the dumps this week (thanks hormones) and so I’m distracting myself with positivity. Take that for Mindfulness.
So here are a few of things that changed my life for the better:
Before you accuse me of going sentimental on you, let’s get one thing straight. I am not the soppy, romantic type.
That said, I couldn’t very well write a post about all the great things in my life and not include Chris. I mean, he’d get the hump, wouldn’t he?
I met Chris in a taxi over 12 years ago now and as soppy as it sounds, it was kind of love at first sight for me (vomits). So much so, that I was very annoyed that my friend had sat between us in the taxi. How dare she?
You sometimes hear people say that not a day goes by where they’re not thankful for the love of their life. Now, I think they must be lying. Of course there are days where you drive each other insane and even just the sound of them breathing makes you want to conk them round the head with a frying pan. Just me?
But joking aside, I don’t know where I’d be without him. I mean, I may have better self esteem without the constant piss taking, but life would definitely be more boring.
Plus, where the hell would I find anyone else willing to put up with me?
Having My Children Young
OK, so we’re not talking teenage young, but by today’s standards, 24 is pretty young. Right?
Having children is both the most rewarding and most exhausting thing I have ever done. It’s full on and nothing can prepare you for the shock the the system that having your first child brings. All of a sudden, it’s not about you and it’s all about them.
I couldn’t imagine life without my three children in it. I mean, my house would be tidier and I’d have a lot more money and free time. But when I try to imagine that life now, all I can see is emptiness.
Given that I have aged by about 20 years in the last eight, I also can’t even begin to imagine how tiring it would be to start having babies now. I’m not sure how I’d cope!
Letting Things Go
Most of us go through a period of teenage angst, right? Where you feel like the whole world is against you and it’s your mission to set them straight?
Well, somewhere along the line into adulthood, I think the majority of us work out that this is a pretty exhausting way to live. No, not everyone is against you. No, there really is no need to alert everyone you know to even the pettiest of grievances. Now, I’m not saying allow yourself to be a doormat, but letting the small stuff go works for me.
Having said that, Chris may have a different opinion entirely. I’m not sure he sees me as the ‘letting go’ type.
Do you ever lie in bed at night and ‘sliding doors’ your life? Ever wonder where life would have taken you, had things turned out differently?
Perhaps, how many things we might want to change provide a measurement of our happiness? When I’m feeling a bit down, I like to think this might be the case. Because if this is a true measurement of happiness, then I’m doing just fine.
These are some great ways to live a happy life. Letting things go is a big solution to many troubles. Nice post 🙂
Totally agree – thank you x
I had my girls young too (I was 23 when I had my first, now aged ten and a 1/2) and whilst sometimes I think I may have been a more patient/calm Mum if I’d had them older, or more ‘ready’ (whatever that means) really I think it was a good thing because I’ll still have lots of time left once they’re grown up and need me less and I’ll be able to help out with their children if they choose to have any. And yes to letting things go. That’s my word/intention for this year – 2017 is my year of letting go. Lovely post Kerry 🙂
Yes to all these things! Bringing up kids takes lots of energy, so I am really pleased we had ours younger. Like you say too, it means you can help out with grandkids too. Letting go is definitely the way forward. I used to really stew things over, but I am getting much better at letting things go now. I’m much happier for it too xxx
Loved this Kerry and I can really relate. As you know I had my eldest at 23 so while it was tough, I’m so happy that I’ll still be young when they are teenagers (and when they move out!!) haha xx
haha you made me laugh with the move out bit! I wouldn’t change having them young one bit. Well, be cool Mums of teenagers, right?? Maybe … xxx
Such gorgeous post Kerry. I didn’t realise you had the girls young, quite the opposite for me – I was 31. Sadly I hadn’t met Simon until I was 24/5 – if we had been together earlier I think I would have liked to have had George younger. And definitely let things go x
Ah this is so beautiful. I know what you mean, I was drawn to my husband at first sight too – but it did take me a while for me to realise he was the one. The biggest game changer in my life was when I realised that life’s so much easier when you don’t worry about the small things.
Yes to all of this babes what a great way to pick yourself up when you aren’t feeling one hundred percent. I love this and your positivity too. You are an inspiration to us all #wrc
Oh big yes to the last one!! I don’t think I’d have the time let alone the energy for that xx